January 14, 2011
Karma: A Fresh Look
Let’s rethink Karma. Whether you believe in reincarnation or not you can believe in karma. It is merely cause and effect and you see it in your life all the time. We, all of us, are made up of personality (ego) and essence or soul. It is your personality that creates karma, and you can be acting out of negative or positive aspects of your personality. It is when acting out of the negative aspects that you create negative karma.
Karma is the process through which your soul evolves and grows….and that is your purpose in life…. to heal, to evolve, and to move toward acceptance and unconditional love. Yet the word “karma” is tossed around like it is a negative thing……a bad thing. I am thinking, if it is your pathway to growth, soul evolution, and enlightenment, it can’t be a negative.
You are operating from your false personality when you act out the negative aspects of it. For instance, an aspect of your personality may be you are reserved. In the positive you would behave with restraint, in the negative you would be inhibited. Or what if you are discriminating..in the positive you would have discernment, in the negative prejudice. So it would be out of the inhibitions and prejudices that you would create negative karma with another….that through your inhibitions you would judge them blindly or shame them through the filter of your inhibitions.
The false personality believes in separation, in lack. It believes it is alone and fears for its survival. Basically, it is governed by fear. It is your false personality, or your personality acting out of its negative aspects that creates negative karma. But, and here is the important part, often you judge that these behaviors are wrong. Yet when you look at karma you understand that the soul/essence seeks balance and it is through these karmic lessons the soul evolves. If we never acted out of our false personality we would create no negative karma, have no karmic lessons, and cease to spiritually evolve.
So here is the good news. Learn from your lessons and move on knowing that your soul is evolving through them. Cease the judgement. Give yourself a break!! Isn’t that a great plan for the new year?
By the way, the Michael Teachings study in depth how we set up our personality and essence to learn and grow. I teach classes on this system and also can channel a complete chart for you. Find the link on the Home page to learn more about this system.
December 15, 2010
Attraction
The Law of Attraction states you have already created what you desire. Why, then, does it not show up? Well, that is where physics comes in….you must be in alignment for its manifestation. You must hold the vision of your creation without attachment to it, yet be in alignment with it. When the vibrations match you will manifest your desire.
How do you get in alignment with your desire? You must clear any blocks you have to it’s creation and your receiving it. You must clear all negativity and resistance. You must clear old beliefs and perceptions that are in opposition to it. When you have done all that you must expect it to manifest, but be completely unattached to the outcome.
Another piece to manifesting that which you desire is to really boil it down to its essence. For instance, it may be a relationship, or a change in a current relationship….however, we are unable to exert our will on another in the manifestation process. Therefore rather than focusing on a specific person, focus on the qualities that you desire, the energy of the relationship. Do you desire honesty? Communication? Passion? Also, don’t forget the desire to attract someone who wants to be in a relationship with you!
Objects are often far easier to manifest, because you are not dealing with another persons free will when you desire a new house, a vacation, or even more basic things like food and clothes. What you may be looking at needing to clear could be more aligned with karma, poverty consciousness or self-worth issues.
So, can you really attract you desire? The answer is yes, if you are in alignment with it. When you are in that alignment there is an absence of negativity and resistance. It can be a tough place to sustain because you are here on the earth plane for the specific reason to grow and learn, and you do that through experiences. You have positive and negative experiences. The negative experiences may throw you into fear, resistance, and negativity. You then have more to clear to be in alignment with your desires. It is a cycle. That is the journey of life. That is the journey of healing. That is the journey of your soul…..and that is the journey of manifestation.
November 22, 2010
Wounds
A friend of mine remarked the other day on the big difference between “feeling” our wounds and “carrying” them. I was stunned by this seemingly simple insight. It is the difference between being involved in the healing needed….or still being caught drama of the situation. They are very much on opposite ends of the spectrum. One is actively working on clearing and moving past what is affecting you, the other is still occupying the space of “being wounded.”
The analogy that came to me was of a rope with a knot in it. Often when you untie the knot there will be a slight dent, bend or memory of the knot, but the rope is now free of the knot. Use this analogy to think of a situation or crisis in your life that is still a wound or causing you emotional pain. As you release the pain, you untie the knot. There will still be memory of the event, but the intense emotions and their emotional charge are released.
It is also helpful to discover how you process circumstances as they happen in your life. My friend is emotionally centered, meaning she goes first to her emotions to process life’s circumstances and events. I am intellectually centered. I go first to my intellect to process. I figure things out first, she feels things first. When you think about it this will also affect how you “carry” and how you “clear” your wounds. (The Michael Teachings explain our centering….follow the links found on the home page of LiveTrue.com.)
By using healing tools and feeling/processing your wound…..you release the need to carry it any longer. There are many tools, techniques and practitioners available these days to help us release and heal our baggage. We no longer need to carry our wounds, nor is there really any reason for the process to be long, drawn-out, and painful. If you need help releasing your wounds…..reach out to a reputable healing practitioner.
September 5, 2010
Life
If life were a play we would study the “role” we were assigned. We would develop the character by figuring out his or her motivation, attitudes, and beliefs. Real life is not so very different. For each “role” we take on in life there are inherent beliefs or “pictures” that come with it.
Let’s look at the role of parent. When we take on the role of parent we inherit the pictures of our child graduating from high school, perhaps from college. We also generally get the picture of a wedding, a grandchild, etc. You get the idea! We inherit these pictures and then we build on them if they are important to us personally, if they are not we don’t put any energy into them. But, and here is the big BUT, just because we ignore them doesn’t mean they go away. Unless we actually clear the beliefs/pictures from our subconscious and energy fields they remain.
This is where we can get blindsided. Let’s say your child shares with you that they are not heterosexual (there goes the picture of a traditional wedding and grandchildren)…. they quit high school (there goes the picture of a successful career-true or not, graduation, college)….they run away as a child…..or worse possible scenario they die young (there go all your pictures). The relevant pictures will surface for you and you will have to deal with the loss of them, whether they were personally important to you or not, because they were beliefs that you inherited of what life with a child would look like. You were imprinted the day you became a parent.
Now think of all the “roles” you play, and have played, in your life…child, parent, brother, sister, student, teacher, friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, scholar, delinquent, athlete. The list is endless when you start to pay attention. That is a lot of beliefs and pictures in your head that you did not create. You did not ask for. You did not even bargain for, and most often do not know how to deal with.
And then behind the pictures are the emotions. The grief, disappointment, fear, shame, guilt, whatever they may be…..they are there. When we let the pictures and beliefs reveal themselves we often find the deeply hidden emotions. Clearing these opens us up to life again…and as we open back up to life we can again find our joy.
This is what self-awareness is about. I think “self-help” is far too often getting to be an eye-rolling term these days, when in fact all it means is to help yourself. Help yourself become aware of what works for you in your life and what doesn’t. Help yourself clear what doesn’t. Help yourself learn some of the many tools out there to do that so that you can live clear of this pre-programming. If you need help with it, help yourself find the right person or people to work with. But you must help yourself, before anyone else can help you.
July 31, 2010
Waiting
There is an element of expectation in waiting. A bit of the future. A measure of a plan set in motion. It is different from being in the moment. When we wait it is with anticipation of coming events, rather than just being present.
When we are in the present moment it allows us to accept what is…and move from that point into the next moment. Can you set an intention? Can you have a desired outcome? Sure, but the trick is to set it in motion…put the energy out there…and then detach and move back into the present moment. This allows the energy of what we intent to remain pure intention. It allows it to appear at the “right” time. If we remain attached then so do our feelings, thoughts and emotions. We get in our own way of manifesting that which we desire. We wait….and we wonder why we are not creating what we want.
June 28, 2010
Needs
Do you know what your three primary needs are? Our needs shape our lives, for we seek to satisfy them. They motivate us and in many ways define us. In the Michael Teachings there are nine basic human needs. Each of us choose three primary needs for our lifetime. Understanding our needs allows us to create a life that balances or fills our needs, rather than create conflict with them. For instance, a person with a need for security will not feel safe as a penniless artist or inventor. A person with a need for security will fill that need and be happiest working at a job that offers good benefits, or a field that offers many options. They will choose a partner who is stable and makes them feel safe and comfortable, rather than one who is spontaneous and adventuresome.
Discovering my three basic needs explained so much of my life to me. With two of my needs being adventure and freedom I now understand my dislike of rules and need to live “out of the box.” It explains my love of travel and new experiences. I understand how I can commit deeply, be fiercely loyal, and yet need space to be my own person……need the freedom to be me…..and since security isn’t high on my list I have the ability to give that same freedom back to others. With my primary needs I would not be a good match for someone with a primary need of security.
You see how it works? So much understanding can come from uncovering your needs. It will help you accept yourself and, in the future, create your life with them in mind. It will also help you be more accepting of others, because understanding your needs will allow you to see that other people have needs different from yours.
The nine needs are security, adventure, freedom, expression, power, exchange, acceptance, communion, and expansion. We are often able to pick out our primary needs simply by understanding the basic characteristics of each one.
To learn more about the Michael Teachings and the Nine Needs read the Michael Teachings article under “Features.” Also, go to Links (top of page) and under General Interest click on “Michael Teachings.”
I teach classes on the Michael System and will be scheduling classes in Traverse City and Cincinnati in the fall. I will post the information on the “calendar.” Also, feel free to contact me with questions or to receive information on obtaining your own personal Michael System chart.
June 23, 2010
What is Success?
What is “success” and what is “failure?” I am contemplating all the years of struggle my daughter had in traditional school settings. Now she has gotten her GED a year early without studying. So her education was a success story, but her “school experience” seemed like failure. And because she pursued the early option for herself now she can start receiving the vocational training she has always known she wants……and be a year ahead.
Here is what I know…..she has many successes and failures ahead of her. We all do. So, let’s stop fearing them so much. They are just part of daily life. Would we feel so strongly if they were just “positive or negative experiences?” It is our mental perception about the words “success” and “failure” that create our belief of them being good or bad. The label “negative experiencer” is a bit more difficult…maybe it wouldn’t be used as often as we like to use “failure.” Maybe we were taught to fear failure as a way of control. I don’t know. I do know we are all different. We all have different gifts and talents, challenges and struggles. It’s time to stop judging ourselves and others….time to stop and turn things around. Life is trial and error….an experiment…ours to create.
Here’s to all our negative experiences……may they eventually lead to positive ones!! (they usually do!)
April 21, 2010
Giving and Receiving
I believe that in our lifetime we must learn both to give and to receive. They are opposite poles of the same spectrum. They are about love. They open your heart and they work with your heart center.
We, as a society, look on giving as a honorable attribute, and it is. However, we often do not distinguish between giving and martyrdom and sacrifice. In my opinion, these are not necessarily positive qualities. Generally these qualities are from people who will not allow themselves to truly receive and that is not balanced. They are not allowing themselves to be loved…..and they are denying others the opportunity to be loving toward them. When you look at it that way, excessive giving, without the ability to receive isn’t as much selfless as it is selfish. We can choose to stay in our comfort zone, that is our right. For many people that means a guarded heart which is unable to truly receive. It is their right, but let’s not give them a medal for it. It’s not a measure of greatness.
A long time ago I looked at the reason some people experience dis-ease to the point that they need to be cared for…..and in fact, if they do not in their living they often do in their dying. I have come to believe that one reason is because it offers one last chance to learn to receive. If we can look at the opportunities in our lives where we “need” to receive, such as when we are injured or sick, as lessons in love we allow ourselves another chance to grow.
Likewise, I have learned that if we make the conscious choice to not do the little loving things we notice along the way that maybe will go unnoticed, we close our heart a little more each time we make the conscious choice to not give. Think about the times you could think of others….bring in the newspaper, offer to get them a drink or snack, really listen, or lend a hand. The little things we can feel too busy or too irritated to do.
I have learned that it is when I give little things, my heart opens. When I allow myself to receive in the same way it opens wider. It is an opportunity for a never ending circle of love and it puts me in a place of gratitude.
April 9, 2010
Golden Rule
I don’t like the Golden Rule. “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” To me, this is still teaching love backwards. We need to love ourselves first, be kind to ourselves, judge not ourselves……then that is ALL we have to give out into the world.
We live in a judgmental world. We are raised in judgmental organizations. Too many of our religions teach us about God’s judgment and Judgment Day. Our schools grade and judge us. Athletics teach us about competition and judgment. Our media tells us that we are too fat, too thin, too pale, too bald….even Santa judges whether we are “worthy” of a gift! Ugh!! Sometimes it can seem like all we are taught is how to weigh worth, judge, and assign blame and guilt…..and then we are to “do unto others as we would have them do unto us.” We model judgment, and then we tell our kids to “be nice.” What is wrong with this picture?
Wouldn’t it make more sense to teach self-love? If I love myself and see my value and worth, am I not going to see it in others? If I accept myself, am I not going to accept others? If that was the community in which our children were truly raised, wouldn’t they stand a better chance of never forgetting that who they love is themselves? (I say “never forgetting” because I believe that we are born loving ourselves…..then we are taught not to. How sad that we then spend much of our midlife trying to find our way back to this truth!!)
March 31, 2010
Fear
Fear is paralyzing. It stops growth and creates a mode of protection. When you are in protection you are not only unable to grow, but you unconsciously put up blocks to fully experiencing love, joy, gratitude, and abundance.
As humans we have all kinds of fears, from obvious phobias to basic human fears such as aging and dying. We have deeply rooted fear beliefs, prejudices, and hidden agendas that were imprinted upon us as children. We have fears from traumas we experience in our lives. We develop fears as we age related to relationships, to trust, to speaking our truth. In fact, often the areas where we need to be most in touch with our true self, to express our soul’s journey and lessons, are wrapped in fears. It is these fears we must heal to truly live our life’s purpose….And even knowing that, we fear what me must do or clear to reach that space. We fear giving up our ideas, goals, agendas, and most definitely control.
The crazy thing about all this is that if you have ever been in a life threatening situation you realize, quite quickly, that life is not about these fears at all. Control is an illusion. Everything can be changed, taken away, and life as you know it over, in the blink of an eye or less. Then you realize how much of your life you gave up by clinging to your fears. Life is just too short….every time around. Face your fears. Do not let them dictate your life. If you do not know how, or need help seek it. Get guidance. There are so many ways to get there from here, as they say. What is necessary is the willingness to heal.
Find a good practitioner and go to work. I am available for appointments, and am also very willing to help you find someone in your area. So let’s get started…..Clear your subconscious of these unnecessary roadblocks to your happiness. Live the rest of your life free of programmed fears…..
(You may also wish to read the related blog on “Freedom” posted August 3, 2009.)
