September 5, 2010
Life
If life were a play we would study the “role” we were assigned. We would develop the character by figuring out his or her motivation, attitudes, and beliefs. Real life is not so very different. For each “role” we take on in life there are inherent beliefs or “pictures” that come with it.
Let’s look at the role of parent. When we take on the role of parent we inherit the pictures of our child graduating from high school, perhaps from college. We also generally get the picture of a wedding, a grandchild, etc. You get the idea! We inherit these pictures and then we build on them if they are important to us personally, if they are not we don’t put any energy into them. But, and here is the big BUT, just because we ignore them doesn’t mean they go away. Unless we actually clear the beliefs/pictures from our subconscious and energy fields they remain.
This is where we can get blindsided. Let’s say your child shares with you that they are not heterosexual (there goes the picture of a traditional wedding and grandchildren)…. they quit high school (there goes the picture of a successful career-true or not, graduation, college)….they run away as a child…..or worse possible scenario they die young (there go all your pictures). The relevant pictures will surface for you and you will have to deal with the loss of them, whether they were personally important to you or not, because they were beliefs that you inherited of what life with a child would look like. You were imprinted the day you became a parent.
Now think of all the “roles” you play, and have played, in your life…child, parent, brother, sister, student, teacher, friend, girlfriend, boyfriend, husband, wife, scholar, delinquent, athlete. The list is endless when you start to pay attention. That is a lot of beliefs and pictures in your head that you did not create. You did not ask for. You did not even bargain for, and most often do not know how to deal with.
And then behind the pictures are the emotions. The grief, disappointment, fear, shame, guilt, whatever they may be…..they are there. When we let the pictures and beliefs reveal themselves we often find the deeply hidden emotions. Clearing these opens us up to life again…and as we open back up to life we can again find our joy.
This is what self-awareness is about. I think “self-help” is far too often getting to be an eye-rolling term these days, when in fact all it means is to help yourself. Help yourself become aware of what works for you in your life and what doesn’t. Help yourself clear what doesn’t. Help yourself learn some of the many tools out there to do that so that you can live clear of this pre-programming. If you need help with it, help yourself find the right person or people to work with. But you must help yourself, before anyone else can help you.
